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The Perfect Guide to Flirt with Indonesians!

Hello FlokqJune 9, 2020

Indonesians tend to have this exotic look, unique characters, and cultural personality that attracts fellow Indonesians and foreigners. But, starting a relationship with an Indonesian is just as tough as maintaining one! So, if you’re hoping you’re the next in line to get that Indonesian man/woman and start that relationship then you’re in luck! Here are 5 steps to flirt with Indonesians!

Get to know each other

Like in any relationship, introducing yourself and getting to know each other is a crucial step. In this step, you’ll find a general picture of your partner’s character, likes, and dislikes. A two-way communication like small talks about yourself and asking little things about your partner-to-be plays a big role in this stage. Don’t worry too much if she/he will like you, just be yourself and don’t try too hard because they’ll see right through you! It’s important to perceive this stage as making friends and not as a stage that you depend on. 

Maintain eye contact and confidence

The eye is the key to the heart, people say, and it may be right. Eye contact is one of the most effective psychological moves for maintaining any kind of relationship. It portrays interest, respect, and shows the person that you are talking to a sense of honor and respect. The eye could be a flirty tool too! When you both have that eye contact, try to maintain it for about 3-5 seconds, some say that seconds in eye contact can determine what a person may think of you. This body language also serves as a code to let someone know that you have an interest in them and feel attracted. So, don’t use this ability to everyone!

The key to maintaining eye contact is confidence, it plays a significant part in many things. Confidence lets you do the things you do and gives a sense of charisma to you. Be consistent, brave, and firm to yourself and others, don’t hesitate, have this persuasive manner that shines through you, by this, people, not only your partner-to-be will eventually feel attracted to you. 

Always smile and don’t forget to joke around

Smiling is another body language that is crucial to start any type of relationship. It will show people that you are friendly and opened, it gives them a sense of comfort seeing how kind you are. When you’re in a conversation, try to put in some little jokes or be cheeky, making a person laugh gives a psychological feeling that the person that makes it will be able to make her/him happy. No wonder people love humorous people! Here’s an extra tip, give some small body gestures like skin touch while joking around, this will also give the person a sense that you are attracted to them. Don’t forget to listen to the person that you’re talking to though, it gives them a sense of respect. Who wouldn’t want to be listened to too? 

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Start giving them codes

So you’ve finally come to this stage. It’s time to send these ‘codes’ to your partner-to-be. Indonesian tends to like codes, it gives them grounding and confidence on what to do next in a relationship, it also is a thing so they know that you’re interested in them without confessing.

So, here are some flirt phrases in Bahasa for you to use :

• Boleh minta nomor kamu? = May I have your phone number?
• Main, yuk? Aku bosen = Let’s hang out? I’m bored
• Aku suka deh mata kamu = I like your eyes
• Mau nonton sama aku ga? = Do you want to go out for movies?
• Kamu kosong ga hari (Senin/Selasa/Rabu/Kamis/Jum’at/Sabtu/Minggu)? = Are you free on (Monday/Tuesday/Wednesday/Thursday/Friday/Saturday/Sunday)?

Here several Indonesia Idioms related to love

• sayang (n) = my dear
• dara manisku = my sweet girl(friend)
• sehidup semati = everlasting
• pujaan hati = heartthrob 
• cinta abadi = endless love
• cinta sejati = true love
• bidadariku = my angel

You can also use several phrases in Bahasa Indonesia

• Aku sayang kamu = I love you (also for friends, family)
• Aku cinta kamu = I love you
• Kamu mau jadi pacar aku? = Do you want to be my girlfriend/boyfriend?
• Aku mencintai kamu apa adanya = I love you just the way you are
• Aku sangat merindukanmu = I miss you (so badly)
• Aku kangen = I miss you
• Aku tidak bisa hidup tanpa kamu = I can’t live without you
• Aku ingin bertemu denganmu sekali lagi = I want to meet you want more time
• Pertemuan kemarin begitu membekas di hatiku = Last meeting left a handprint (impression) in my heart
• Sampai maut memisahkan kita = Til death do us part

Get to know their interests in life and do activities together

Last but not least. When your flirting works, take a step forward on getting to know them on a much intimate level. Intimacy is probably the main ingredient to start a relationship, people seek for it. So, use your date chances to find out how they see the world, how they feel of something, what they’re doing for time to time, and so on. This step also encourages you to do more activities with them, the more you see them, the more they are used to your presence and feel comfortable. You’ll have a great shot at this!

There you have your 5 steps to flirt in Bahasa! Sometimes it could be cheesy, just don’t exaggerate things too much and be yourself! Everyone likes a person who is honest to themselves, so, good luck! Go get that partner-to-be! Remember these tips won’t determine the success but at least these tips will help you make the move!